Are you ready to rewrite your definition of "perfect"?
Are you exhausted from wishing you looked a different way, acted a different way, felt a different way?
Maybe you’re tired of never feeling enough, constantly compromising what you want to keep others happy.
Worried that if you don't behave the way you "should", you could lose it all?
Your inner critic tells you that no one will like you if you don’t look a certain way, no one will love you.
Do you wish you could be someone else because you’re not enough…?
It’s not easy, is it? Constantly denying yourself the things you want.
Questioning everything you do or say.
Striving to look a certain way, embarking on endless quick fix diet miracles, then feeling like a failure when you can’t see them through. Bingeing on the exact food you’ve been trying to avoid as a means to soothe your shame.
Desperate to impress, feeding off the validation of others.
Perhaps some of this sounds familiar but you’re not sure if you’re actually a perfectionist?
Perfectionist tendencies can show up in our lives in many different ways..
◉ Diluting your personality, desperate for social acceptance
◉ Over Excelling at work, at the expense of a healthy work-life balance
◉ Presenting a polished version of your life and home, stripping away room to breathe
◉ Sacrificing your boundaries in the pursuit of others’ happiness
◉ Controlling what you eat, striving for the ‘perfect’ body
There is more to life than measuring your food, killing yourself at the gym, or saying no to a glass of wine.
There’s more to life than working yourself into the ground, never spending time with loved ones, and taking on projects you don’t have the capacity for.
It Doesn’t Have To Be This Way...
Imagine a life where you felt confident, comfortable, and enough. Just as you are. No diets, no sacrifices, no shame.
Imagine - food is no longer an emotional crutch. You exercise if and when you want to, not because you have to.
Freedom to say yes to the wine. Freedom to forget the scales.
Freedom to live the life you want, and deserve.
Freedom to be you, wholly and unapologetically YOU
Genuine self-love is possible.
It’s possible to say no, to think highly of yourself, to be confident in your actions.
To get there you need to understand and accept yourself on a deep and intimate level.
You need to rewrite the many years of conditioning placed on you by your caregivers, society, and your experiences.
It requires courage, compassion, and radical acceptance of yourself in order to be at peace with your uniqueness.
The result of learning to accept yourself? Self-love and freedom. So. Much. Freedom.
I know what it feels like to not feel good enough.
I know how loud the inner critic can get.
I know how desperate it can feel to look and live a certain way.
I know, because alongside working with hundreds of women just like you, I’ve been there too.
What People Are Saying...
"Nikki you have such a way with story telling and words, that was highly engaging and helped me focus so much! You create an open, inviting space which allowed me to feel so comfortable with my own discomfort."
- Alyssa, Perth Australia
"Thank you so much for this. The session was amazing and I cannot believe all the little nuggets I discovered in such a short time. I appreciate all you do and thank you so much for sharing your knowledge. And the way you present such difficult topics is astounding. You make things so simple and approachable. You truly have a gift!"
- Beth, Chicago USA
"Today is my 1 year clean and sober and I just wanted to message you and say THANK YOU - you with everyone else helped me get to where I am today. Thank you Nikki."
- Janet, Sydney Australia
This program is designed for you if:
✔ You feel a sense of shame around who you are, or how you look
✔ You are forever comparing your life, body, relationship, career to everyone else's.
✔ You know that have a very unhealthy relationship with food (or other substances)
✔ You no longer want to use food as an emotional escape or control mechanism.
✔ You're tired of being bullied by your own inner critic.
✔ You no longer want to feel resentment from having your boundaries crossed by others, (and yourself).
✔ You are ready to let go of the anxiety which comes from your every day
✔ You would love to experience a sense of freedom & acceptance towards yourself
YES! This is for me!🎉
So, What Exactly Is PROJECT PERFECT?
Project Perfect is a self paced, online program which helps women with perfectionist tendencies to reconnect with their true selves, overcome the conditioning of their childhood, learn to love their bodies, and build a healthy relationship with food.
Broken down into 4 overarching steps, and 8 core lesson topics, the Project takes you through a systemised and strategic approach for radical transformation & self acceptance.
◉ Unmet childhood needs & trauma.
◉ Limiting beliefs.
◉ Looking at your 'should' statements.
◉ Societal impacts on perspective & expectations.
◉ Understanding shame
◉ Perfectionism Paralysis
◉ Perfectionism & anxiety / stress
◉ What is 'disordered eating'?
◉ Food as a self soothing or control mechanism
◉ Cultivating self compassion
◉ Learning to re-parent yourself
◉ Cultivating self respect
◉ Body appreciation
◉ Embodiment Yoga practice for self respect
◉ The SOS Approach to 'conscious eating'
◉ Giving yourself permission
◉ Letting go of comparison
◉ Setting new beliefs and finding 'evidence'
◉ Letting go of comparison
◉ Bonus lesson: finding joy and intimacy with life
◉ Trusting yourself, and the process
About Your Facilitator
Hey there! I'm Nikki Heyder.
I’m a qualified mental health counsellor, clinical nutritionist, and yoga teacher, and have been working with women just like you for over 11 years.
During this time, I have created a process to help women (including myself) connect with their authentic selves and let go of the conditioning placed on them during childhood, adolescence, and impactful adulthood experiences.
I strive to help you find the aha moments, where everything just clicks into place...
But, if you’re looking to be fixed, I can’t help you.
Why is that? Because you do not need to be fixed. You are not faulty.
My purpose is simply to help you remember and reconnect to the lost parts of yourself - the parts which you feel you need to hide or change because at some stage in your life, you were led to believe that they weren't ‘good enough’.
Together, we will develop a deep awareness of your conditioning. You will understand the root causes of your perfectionistic tendencies, and with your newfound knowledge start to re-write your perception of self.
The antidote to self-criticism and perfectionism, is compassion, acceptance, and courageous action. Most of these qualities are unfamiliar to us and so it’s understandable that we don’t know how to access them on a daily basis. That’s what Project Perfect will teach you.
"You have sooooo much knowledge and it's been super fun using the tools we've been learning the past few weeks. I am so grateful - thank you!" - Nicole, Bali Indonesia
"Nikki, thank you for helping find and start freeing my body. This is an amazing journey." - Sherry, Bali Indonesia
Are you ready to:
✔ Finally let go of the anxiety & pressure of unreasonable expectations?
✔ Love and respect your body like never before?
✔ Find joy & pleasure in living a life on your own terms?
✔ Listen to, and understand the signs and signals from your body?
✔ Discover your inner, wise, compassionate self?
✔ Get on your own side?
✔ Re-write your definition of "perfect"?
If you're answer is YES, then let's do this! 🎉
This program is entirely self paced and you get to keep it for life. The next step is committing to yourself, and taking compassionate action toward an easier, freer lifestyle!
I Want This Program Now!
It Doesn't Stop With The Program...
Introducing the SOS Sisterhood!
As we move through life we experience set backs, triggers, or new experiences which we may find difficult to navigate... we also encounter small (or large) wins and successes which we want to share with a community of likeminded, supportive people.
When you commence this program you get 1 month free access to our "SOS Sisterhood" - our first ever online community (which isn't another Facebook Group!) - a private, customised platform to share, support, get inspired, and inspire others. Weekly discussion circles, additional theory exercises, bonus videos, webinars, live Q&A sessions and much, much more.I Want To Know More About The SOS Sisterhood